Leaning Into Authenticity Has Given Me 10x More Results

Authenticity, the quality of being genuine or real.

I'm writing to you about authenticity today because I have seen the power of it firsthand lately, as it has been an attribute I have been focused on embodying. It's something I've always felt like I've leaned into. It's been 10x, and I love how I have felt. I've leaned increasingly into being myself, honoring my path, and walking the path designed for me. Perhaps it gets easier and easier the more we age and mature.

From a psychological standpoint, authenticity is rooted in the congruence between one's internal experiences, beliefs, and values and their outward expression in behavior. Psychologist Carl Rogers, a pioneer in humanistic psychology, emphasized the importance of unity in fostering mental health. The discrepancy between one's true self and outward persona, known as incongruence, can lead to internal conflict, stress, and diminished well-being.

Research in positive psychology has further underscored the significance of authenticity in enhancing life satisfaction and overall happiness. Studies suggest that individuals authentically express themselves experience greater psychological well-being, improved relationships, and a heightened sense of purpose. Living in alignment with one's values and beliefs contributes to mental health and fosters resilience in the face of life's challenges.

The other night, I wanted to pick up a salad from one of my favorite dinner spots near my house for dinner. I parked my car about a half mile away since it was the busy city center, and I knew I would have to walk. Honestly, I like walking, so it was not a big deal to me. Walking to, picking up, and leaving the restaurant, I noticed everyone looked the same. I felt like I saw the same person over and over. The same server, the same girl walking around with the same jeans, the same guys with the same beard repeatedly. I didn't see a single person that stood out.

Later that evening, someone sent me a clip from a dating podcast on social media and asked what I thought. It was one of those dating podcasts with extreme and divisive views. The man and woman who spoke about dating did so from a wound; I could tell there was no more love in their heart, just pain. They fit perfectly into the archetype, and their responses were not deep or inspiring.

I texted them back and said, 'Not surprised at all. They said exactly what I thought they would. Before I even pressed play I knew they were both going to say something dark and evil, you could just see it in their energy. I could tell that they weren’t going to say anything with love and ambition. I’m not shocked, at all, haha. Is this the reaction you were expecting from me?"

Ironically, the person texted me back and said, “You responded just how I thought you would.”

Ha.

We all fit into certain archetypes. We all do some degree of fitting in and doing what others do as a way to belong. I'm not here to tell you to rebel, to be an alien, or that there is any shame in being human. One of the things I've noticed with my travels is that most people in particular regions move, act, and behave in similar ways. There is nothing wrong with it. The part that I am most concerned with is when we are dumbing ourselves down, ruining our lives through assimilation, and choosing to be the people we are, not just to be "liked."

There's value in taking cues from the culture, fitting in, and being a part of a community -- I buy that. And there is value in understanding your path, being authentic when it's time to do so, and understanding that there are benefits to "being yourself," as we always say. You may have more wealth, more joy, and more peace simply by choosing to be yourself. If you struggle significantly with authenticity, start small today and listen to your inner voice. Pay attention to the no's and yes's that you choose. Pay attention to whether you choose habits and mindsets because they inspire you or because it's just something you've done on autopilot.

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