Healing: Allow A community To Witness You
please remember these words: don't do it alone; share it with someone.
it can be a community, your wife/husband, a counselor, a therapist, family at the dinner party, etc.
our society is grief-phobic and death-phobic, and it feels anti-family (to me); we need safe spaces to be seen, heard, and witnessed. we need to be responsible for creating a powerful-integrated family; that is our duty ( to me). i strongly recommend turning to a healing practice like yoga, which is about living well and taking care of yourself, your world, and the spaces you occupy. i strongly recommend meditation, I specifically do mindfulness meditation with concentrated breathing-inhale through the nose and exhaling through he body. repeat the process 5 or 6 times or at least until you can feel that your nervous system has reached some calmness.
“Approaching sorrow, however, requires enormous psychic strength. For us to tolerate the rigors of engaging the images, emotions, memories, and dreams that arise in times of grief, we need to fortify our interior ground. This is done through developing a practice that we sustain over time. Any form will do—writing, drawing, meditation, prayer, dance, or something else—as long as we continue to show up and maintain our effort. A practice offers ballast, something to help us hold steady in difficult times. This deepens our capacity to hold the vulnerable emotions surrounding loss without being overwhelmed by them. Grief work is not passive: it implies an ongoing practice of deepening, attending and listening. It is an act of devotion, rooted in love and compassion.”
family is the first line of defense and support to heal. if your family has the capacity and depth to support you, go there first and heal with them. it is our duty as members of families to show up as best we can, as powerful as we can be.
if they do not have the capacity or space, or they are the ones who may have caused or supported an injury, then please be relentless in your healing process and find healing. do not cause harm to yourself, do believe in the power of healing. therapy can help, counseling can help, and crying on a shoulder can help.
healing can occur in nature, in a random conversation at a coffee shop, with a therapist who holds space, inside of a book, or at a live stand-up show - healing can occur. healing is available to us all.
healing never stops. i feel healed from what happened in my childhood because i was relentless in my desire to heal, but as an adult, things come up daily i feel, and we have to lean into our tools and support when things rise.
remember, we are not alone; there is support. sometimes it's a hug, and other times it's a podcast.
if you have the capacity to hold someone near you who is healing, do it. if you have the capacity to help, do it. if you have the capacity to show up, do it.
don't let this society brainwash and trick you into thinking anything is more important than connection, love, and being connected to source.
the more we heal, the more we love. the more we love, the more we heal.
sending love to you, and i hope you find your way through.