How To Stop People-Pleasing: Say No To Violating Your Own Voice
“Anything that starts with, “I don’t want them to think”... will end in you not standing as your fully expressed self.”
People-pleasing is a severe problem ( but there are solutions available for us and we are going to talk about them right now). People-pleasing (which is a boundary violation of the self) is a direct consequence of dismissing your voice. It results in us entering situations on eggshells; it creates stress and anxiety. It makes worry and conflict. Nothing good comes from people-pleasing, and to be clear, it is not the same as serving and giving. The most significant difference is that people-pleasing comes with extreme inner-conflict, whereas serving and helping another doesn't exist with that inner resistance.
Do This:
Without shame and with compassion, I challenge you to look deep into some of the phrases you say to yourself (self-talk). Any of the ones that sound like "I don't want to think" are robbing you of your ability to set healthy boundaries. It's robbing you of the ability to stop people-pleasing. During your meditation, journaling, and reflection today, please allow yourself to release those phrases. Practice releasing them so you can come into your most profound alignment. It may take time and repeated efforts; however, this one subtle practice can DRASTICALLY make an energetic shift in how you associate with your voice.
Learn How To Stop People Pleasing Step-By-Step with the course, Build Your Boundaries.
I'm so excited about my workshop and how it will serve the people who show up. It's happening this Sunday and is called How To Stop People-Pleasing, and all of the content will then be added to the Build Your Boundaries course.
You don't want to miss this! You will learn valuable communication skills about boundaries and how to use your voice. You will learn what negative self-talk phrases you are using, and we will practice replacing them by using self-affirming language.
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