Don’t Settle For a Life Unfulfilled
Don’t Settle For a Life Unfulfilled
Do you know what breaks my heart? It’s when people settle for a life that is unfulfilling to them. It hurts me to witness that. I hate when my friends do it, when people I meet do it, and when my family does it. I hate if I even lean that way myself, to be honest. A big question arises when we get on this topic, and it makes me ponder: are there specific times in life when you have to settle, and do we have the proper perspective of settling as it relates to life and life’s outcomes?
I believe most people do not use settle in the most appropriate context, and we often have a negative association when we talk about someone settling, but that doesn’t encapsulate what settling is. Merriam-Webster is the world’s most trusted dictionary, and the name it as is, to fix or resolve conclusively or establish or secure permanently. Here is the link where you can check the other definition.
Settling can be positive and a good thing, and that is what I want you to integrate into your talk patterns. My mother used to always say, after I would travel, “Call me once you have settled in.” She didn’t want to bombard or rush me with speaking on the phone until I felt settled, decompressed, and in a great mood to talk. When I was playing football, my coach would talk about, as a defense, how we wanted the offense we were going against to settle for a 3-point field goal versus a 7-point touchdown. Look, the game's name is to score more points than the other team, so If I can get you in a position to only get three instead of 7, I’ll settle for that. And there are famous quotes that we have all heard, like, “Shoot for the stars and you may land on the moon.” A great sentiment that says you can go extremely far with effort and focus, but you may not hit the exact goal you’re considering, but you may get close. And if that happens, it’s okay because you got further along than where you were when the journey started.
I wanted to add this context as it helps us see that settling is not bad and that there are great examples where settling is a good thing. Settling is good when we choose it and when it aligns with where we want to go. If I settle for a career that challenges me, makes me rich, and lights me up, then that’s great career to settle for. Once you pay off your debt, “it has been settled”, and you can feel peace and accomplishment; you are financially responsible and now setup to stack your wealth. Settling is a good thing.
What I am against is you settling for less than your highest potential.
That is what I have an issue with. I have an issue with you acting like and talking like a victim. I have an issue with you playing around with your life and acting scared ( nothing wrong with fear because we all have it), but you need to take action even through or around said concerns. I have an issue with you being lazy, complacent, and critical of yourself. I have an issue with you settling for comfort instead of pushing yourself to your limits. I have an issue with you making excuses for your dreams, for your goals, and for the opportunities that will help you Live The Life You Deserve.
This is my big invitation to you to get after it. To set your ass on fire and run out of the building of comfortland. The lies you tell yourself will not help you get what you want. You have to be accurate, honest, and direct. You know it, and everyone around you knows where you are settling. Stop being a weak parent. Stop being a weak partner. Stop allowing others to carry your weight, and you stop carrying the weight of other people. It is your challenge to take extreme ownership of your life and let those around you do the same. No more settling in this manner. No more waiting for someone to save you; I promise you, spiderman is not coming. No more planning with no action. Take action today, even if you do not have a plan. Take action that is in the frequency of the outcomes you see, even if you do not have all of the possibilities yet ( you don’t need them anyway). Commit and take as much action as you can. Yes, you can settle but choose what you are settling for. Choose why and how you settle. Be the driver in your life and CHOOSE to Live the Life You Deserve.
with love,
Sylvester McNutt III
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